Resumption of sexual relations after the baby is born is a very delicate matter – each pair has an individual approach, as important to explore your partner’s wishes and willingness to intercourse.
It is important to talk
Quite naturally, if the baby is born are busy with new experiences, emotions and responsibilities. Now you have high and low relationship – Miss your voice and your mom. However, in this moment important to remember that you have more family where each member is equally important role.
Perhaps, the new dad feel a little left out. So far, he was the center of your world, but now this place has taken a kid who calls attention to the nearly 24 hours a day. In any case, this situation is one of the best rooms – conversation. Explain to your spouses, that he is not left in the least, speak what you’re apart, further expect, what your role in Family life, a place here is a baby and both of you.
No matter how expensive now it seems every minute you spend together, remember – there is a need for humans to spend time outside their usual environment and dedicate it for yourself. Do not be angry if one partner wants to be an evening with friends than with family – that way you’re both winners, as distinguished for their evening out increases the pleasure of see them again.
Intercourse – when?
Experts recommend to abstain from sex for 4-6 weeks after delivery, because this time there is an increased risk of infection. Approximately 6 weeks after the baby is born you should gynecological examination – it is also an opportune time to ask your doctor if you are physically ready for sexual intercourse. In particular, if the birth time on the perineal tears or caesarean section. The doctor will give the necessary instructions for initiating an intimate relationship and time.
Of course, we are very different, and every woman herself feels that she is the best. If the birth had been particularly mild, there are no complications and feel ready for sexual relations, they can start earlier. In this case, use a condom to prevent the possibility of infection.
Often women have the opposite attitude – fear of sexual intercourse after childbirth experienced pain and changes in the body. Also, this reaction is quite natural. Should talk about it with a partner to explain his feelings. Also, the long period of abstinence can lead to fear. Therefore, the first intimacy can be emotionally over-saturated. In such cases it is advised to gradually resume intimate relations – not necessarily always be the first time sexual intercourse. First, try caresses, kisses, oral sex, while’d be willing to go all the way.
Also should not worry if you do not experience orgasm within the first few times – a pair of intimate pleasure with the highest level of returns over the longer term. Also, it is normal! You re getting used to each other, get rid of stress and learn to enjoy.
Changes in the body and sex
Another reason why intimate resumption is delayed, the woman’s excitement about change in her appearance. Weight changes and other transformations, creating uncertainties. Therefore, often the avoidance of sex, and first-time suspension. However, remember that the partner after a long abstinence period of sexual tension is increasing, and he wants to release. Perhaps they did not bother your appearance. It is known that women are given this issue a lot more attention than men! What matters is your desire to be together and to take pleasure. Appearance here is of secondary importance.
Since the postpartum period in women observed in the female sex hormone estradiol in the lack of possibility of libido or sexual desire changes. It may interfere with sexual excitability and lead to dryness of the vagina, making intercourse painful. In this case, lubricant is recommended to use – it can be purchased at a pharmacy. Remember that these are only short-term change, and soon everything will return usual track.
The first few months after the baby is born during sexual intercourse should avoid postures that create pressure on the abdominal muscles – for example, if a man or woman at the top of the abdomen. Advised to try the so-called spoon posture – lying next to the partners and the man in the back, and posture of the woman is on top.
Often the tension sexual relations cause the baby’s presence: of course, the baby will start to cry at the exact moment when you are ready for intimacy … However, that reason should not postpone intercourse, because it plays an important role in your relationship. Perhaps now and then for an hour to look after small can a relative or babysitter, allowing you to finally spend time alone and enjoy the intimacy.
Sexual relations are not recommended and definitely see a doctor if:
severe pain in lower abdomen
strong vaginal bleeding
much greater discharge with an unpleasant odor
not healed perineal laceration or caesarean wounds
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